I've overstayed since February 2011. I came from my native to be with my boyfriend then and in that period got pregnant with his child. Due to that I have overstayed because the response I received from my parents was far from positive (very traditional Asian, Muslim upbringing) and I was told that upon my return there would be serious repercussions. My guess would be that my Mum would be handing out a serious kicking to my rear end. Anyway, that pregnancy failed and it resulted with us having a stillborn. To this news my parents replied with "Good". So yes, I wasn't very keen on returning then too and was living under the radar as best as I could. A few months after that we got pregnant again. Lost that one to through miscarriage. Truly, my mental stage by that point was that of a scrambled egg. My partner, bless him, didn't do too well either mentally. He wasn't doing brilliantly financially and we had to float pillar to post to survive but we managed all right.
Amazingly, we got pregnant again. This time I managed to give birth to our healthy son. Now our son is going to turn 4 and I am getting very tired of living like this. I no longer want to look over my shoulder as we're walking in town or break out in sweat if there's a man sitting for too long in his car outside our flat. Ever since I got here 6 years I have not worked for a single day. I have already overstayed and the last thing I would want was to be caught working illegally as well. My partner, due to his deteriorating spine condition, had been on ESA and last year due to a change with how it's been handled his ESA got taken off him. He had been to tribunals and court appearances for this but that is for another forum altogether. So now with his condition where he can't even stand and walk straight he's going to have to go back to work.
Last month, my Nan passed away and it seemed with her passing, my dad got to a bit of an old age crisis thing and he's begging to see his only grandson. I have refused visits from anyone that I know from my country because I don't think being an overstayer I should be entertaining people and I have told him that I am not ready for them to turn up here because of my status. I have yet to see anyone about this. I didn't know if CAB can help me out with this. I am very afraid that we cannot afford legal fees about this. My partner is a British Citizen. He's been here all his life, his entire family are Brits. I have not broken any rules (apart from still being here) and upon giving birth I was charged as an overseas patient and we've been trying (and most of the time failing) to pay off the £6 000 caesarean bill that has since mounted to over £7 000 due to "interest". I just need someone to tell me if there is anything I can do about this. My partner and I have lived continously with each other for 6 years. The only bill I have to show would be the hospital bills. I have no bank account here. No joint tenancy because I have been living life as an invisible person these 6 years. At this point, our only hope would be to attempt to get married and for us to return to my country as a married couple and apply for a PR for him and our son. Am I going to be deported and be taken away from my partner and son? My passport has since expired and if I were to go to the Embassy and get that renewed am I going to get done whilst I'm over there? If the option is there for us to leave together as husband and wife and our son and I can somehow work a way to afford for all of our plane rides, what sort of complications would we be looking at upon our departure? What are my chances of getting a DLR? Should I try and get a DLR or should we try and make it work together in my home country which is Singapore by the way.
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