please anyone help

[aniya]

hello everyone
i would be very thankful if anyone of you could help me out as i'm stressed out.
I have been browsing this forum for awhile...and i did get some useful information but coz my case is abit different i just wanted to clear up my mind..

i wrote on the forum about where to marry is better Hong Kong or UK..
and i found out that its better ..to do a civil marriage in HK and then apply for spousal visa from Hong kong.
however im really concerned about something..it is kind of confusing to me..



then it came to 2006...we tried going to IAS for help but i was told i can't become british citizen coz my father is pakistani and according to PAkistan laws ..i still have a pakistani nationality even though i dont have the passport...u see...
they also tried the dependency again..but nothing out of it

and for my brother's case ...it was getting no attention because his case was dependant on mine ...we were advised by IAS then we should separate his case as he is still under 18...

Then I met someone( early 2006), he was the one who suggested us to go IAS ....i knew him through my moms family friend..he started coming to our house n we started to meet alot...n we used to get along and all that..i never knew that he was interested in me till one day he proposed to me..n i was like 2 minded coz i was just shocked to hear that..i was only 19..n i was confused ...
however i started to fall for him as we kept meeting all the time at mines...
and my mom used to like him so much
ok thats the bit of my love story..on the other hand my case was finalized n i was told to leave UK ..i didnt get no letter like (those for removal or detension)
however coz my mom didnt know what to do about all this..i overstayed for a month or so .then we decided to go to hongkong to at least renew the residency there..coz in HOng kong if u leave the country u need to renew ur residency every 3 years..
so my love story had a sad bit to it...as i started falling in love with him...n he knew that now...but my mom didnt knw..i was scared to tell her coz i didnt know what she will say..
although she knew that he likes me ...but she didnt know that i liked him too..ok then the sad day came and were flying to hongkong last year late june..when i was in hong kong ..i kept touch with him still ...he even came to hongkong to see me coz he missed me soo much...but my mom didnt knew about this..after meeting me he flew back to UK the next day...

okkk..then whatever my mom was deciding i did keep him alert...my mom was planning to move to ireland ...to work there..and to show that she could support me...although it wasnt my choice..but i had no choice...i wasnt happy though...then we flew to ireland in late july ...she first stayed at someone she knew through her friend from uk...then we were looking for our own accomodation...
during all this i was still trying my best to keep in touch with him..because we were soo close ireland n uk...it was even more upsetting coz we couldnt meet..i was not happy at all in ireland at the ppl we were living with...and i was getting stressed out...

Then 1 day he came without me knowing ...and knocked at the door we were staying at ...i was really like shocked n stunned coz i didnt expected him ...but i was very happy....however my mom wasnt...she gave him bad looks...which was very surprising...
anyways he came to see me...he stayed in ireland for 2 days but on the day he came...he made me say it to my mom that i loved him...coz if i didnt tell mom now then it will be never..although it was very very hard but i said it...n that was it ...my mom just started shouting at me..and all that...she just completely gave us the hatred..
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then the next day she tried to be ok with him...so that he can leave happilly back to uk without causing any problems...
but after he left ...she just changed she completely like forgetting my emotions and feelings ..
let me make it short now my story...


so after all this it came to a time that i wanted to run away with him..but i didnt know what to do..he said to me he'll book my ticket and he will come and collect me from Dublin airport...

so in september i ran away with him to uk...after mom found out that i ran away with him..she started contacting him..and so when i came to UK from ireland there was no immigration control ....so my passport aint got a stamp or anything apart from the plane ticket.

..when she found out that i was with him ..she wanted to know what i was going to do...at that time i was staying with a friend of his..not with him coz it wasnt appropriate without being married in my religion(islam) .

..then i decided to marry him to stay with him...at this point now my mom ..she agreed coz she couldnt do anything to change my mind...then she flew to england to join me at my wedding..although he was worried she might she might coz problem..


so finally on the 8 october 2006 we got married islamically(nikah) at a local mosque...and we had like a dinner afterwards..as it was during ramadan..we didnt do much of a big blast wedding..we kept it simple

now finally i can be with him after all that...so then we were living together at his place..
n he started to think about doing a civil marriage but then he knew that we cant really get that done in uk ...we will have to fly to hk.,..so we had been researching and we have planned to hopefully fly to hk in december....
but now my concern is that ...my past...im confused...

although i got all kind of email ,photos ,to show that we loved each other...will my visa be affected coz i overstayed??? when i married him...if we look at it that i flew from ireland n got another 6 months visa to stay..then after february i am illegally staying here....
so we are worried if that will affect my case...what shall i be doing n saying to the ECO...
shall be just straight forward n tell my story as i told u guys ??? or what ?? will mentioning that i did leave UK last year ..and i entered again from ireland affect my case...is it illegal to do thaT??

So am i supposed just say tell my whole past to them(ECO) or will it be better if i write it down n include it in other documents
And will it be better to mention that i left UK n came back from ireland or should i not mention that??


Basically i'm not sure how to present my case...i dont want it to end up like what happen when i was with my mom...and my future plans are to carry on studying and working ...is this going to affect my case?

and lastly i was reading another thread on the forum ..regarding age gap...
now my husband is 36 (divorced from a previous marriage 7 years ago) and im turning 21..
does it matter...will they think this isn't genuine marriage??? because when i fell in love with him i didnt care about his age..n it still doesnt matter to me...

If there's anything u still need to know ..please ask me...i mention most of it ...

Thank u all for your precious time...n sorry for such a long post.
sorry if im asking too much but its just that im too confused n stressed out with all different issues..

I would appreciate if u can help me out in this.

thank you very much
aniya

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Victoria

[aniya]

hello everyone...i didnt read any reply on my post ...and i seriously am confused...i did read the fourm n threads but still..

i recently checked the site for British Embassy in HK....and i found out that now we have to apply online first..but i was wondering ..as we are planning to Fly to Hk in december..do i fill the form out now??? and coz i'm going to marry (registry) when i go to HK ...will that affect the application ...as i would have already sent the form????

and one more question...i have been living with my Husband since last year october...he have been living with a old lady who is their old family friend...so he has prove of BT line,bank coming to this house..he wasnt paying no rent as he was staying with her to help her..
now we decided to move out soon within this month...
the place we are moving to is a 2 bedroom flat .. we only paying rent ..all bill are included...
so the question is when we are going in december ..it'll be only 1 months proof from the new address and the remaining 6 months from the old..

will this be ok ..or will this cause any problem??

please can someone shed some light on this...