This is a rather complex issue but upon seeing this forum i am hoping
someone might give me some help/advice.
I married an american dec 1997 in joliet, illinois. I returned to finish up
things uk side and returned feb 14th, 1998. Was very unhappy by 4th
quarter of '98 and returned to uk the day after thanksgiving day.
Recently i travelled to u.s (newark airport) and was stopped at border
security. I was told i had overstayed 10 yrs previous but had not realised.
I was naive and didnt realise about visa's from the embassy. I honestly
thought the ones handed on the aircraft were all i needed (please,
no flaming, i know how serious this is now).
We attended chicago immigration and was going through
the motions of getting citizenship. I even applied for a green card
and was working. The company did relevent checks and i passed
with flying colours. My wife had a lawyer to deal with legal stuff.
Everything was done properly, apart from the stupid visa :/
And now come back to haunt me

The border officer asked if i had attempted to return to the u.s after
i initially left. I said no. He said 'i hope your right'. Checks were
obviously cleared on that one. Also he checked my flight print out.
Presumably to make sure i had intentions of returning.
Anyway, after 3 long hours, discussion and explanation (and threats of
possible deportation), the officers granted me a waiver (I-193) for
fee of $545. I paid the fee and was allowed to enter for my short
10 day stay with friends.
Incidentally, i was told by the officer that i needed a proper visa
from american embassy in the uk. I am in the process of applying
as i write this. I have to print off a .pdf file which is meant for
offences and arrests/convictions. Even though 99% of the form doesnt
apply to me, i still need to admit my overstay which i am happy to do.
I understand that overstaying 180 days+ but less than 1 yr is a 3 yr ban
and anything over 1 yr is a 10 yr ban.
By my understanding, the 3 yr ban (unknown to me at the time) was
served 7 yrs ago. I realise that this mistake in inexcusable and feel
mighty bad about it.
I have several questions... my apologies!
Does the issue of the waiver mean the offence has been downgraded
or similar? is it a one time fee/repeatable?
Does the 10yr time elapsed help the issue at all?
Would another visit in (say 5 months) cause this issue to surface again
despite (hopefully) having a visa? will my recent visit (jan 18th) and
subsequent leaving well within time allowed, help at all?
This worrys me no end. I realise a visa does not guarantee entry
but applying is all i can do. Has anyone else had a similar experience?
Thank you!