Hi everyone,
I married my husband end 2006 and re-entered UK on a spousal visa. Not long after I fell pregnant and had baby end 2007. Everything was good and then when baby reached about 6 months it all just went wrong. Hubby and I argued all the time and he would initially say stuff like if I leave him then I will be deported, etc. He then slowly started hurting me and treated me like BS. He was very agressive and broke things in the house all the time, i.e. my laptop 8 times, mobiles, phones, anything and basically just did terrible things. I then also found out that he was on drugs and our marriage just fell apart to the point where I tried to get away.
All the advice I got was that there would be no place for me to go. I contacted solicitors and applied for my ILR that was then due. He refused to assist me to get ILR and because I had a valid case of Domestic violence, i.e. doctors, health visitors could confirm and also because the police were called out 3 times I was told that I could apply for ILR via DV.
It took 5 months to get my ILR and during that time I was forced to live in the house because no one could assist with accomodation for me and my then 1 year old daughter. Everyone was aware of my situation and it was stated on my application by my solicitors.
Anyway after I received my ILR hubby then tried to get help and wanted us to work as a family and we moved areas and he stayed in the new house with me. few months later it clearly showed that his behaviour did not change (he wasnt violent anymore cos he knew that nothing stopped me from leaving him) but he stayed out, hardly spent time with my daughter. I eventually kicked him out.
Kicking him out seemed like fixing the problem. During this time his family finally supported me in the sense that they admitted he was at fault and I tried everything. They broke all contact with him and slowly but surely he is becoming the man that he was before the drugs. He just moved back into our family home 3 weeks ago after many months of showing through actions that he want to be a husband and dad. His family accepted him back and it looks like we never had the problems we had.
My biggest worry is that I wish to apply for citizenship but am worried that because I applied for ILR via DV and was genuinely sure my marriage has ended that I might get declined and get deported.
Can someone please advice me what the best thing is that I can do. I have fallen inlove with my husband again and really do not want us to split up again. Right now he took my daughter away for 2 days to give me time to study for my exams (things that he never would have done for a few hours let alone few days)
Sorry for the really long post but just needed to put it all there
refuge in a womens home. But due to me not having ILR at the time as my
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