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by wenner » Sun May 06, 2012 10:29 am
Although we have submitted emails, phone bills,photograps, wedding certificate, letters from friends, parents, the ECO wasn't satisfied that we are in a subsisting relationship because I never visited my husband while pregnant.When we applied the second time, my baby was about 1 month old.They asked my husband why I didn't come and show him the baby.I didn't explain that my baby was admitted to the Special Baby care centre after birth, and that it was just impossible to go and visit him.Because the 12 month ban was lifted, we had a baby and submitted all the above mentioned evidence, I didn't think it was necessary for me to explain why I didn't go and see my husband.I really thought they were going to grant him the visa.I suppose they refused it because I do not have indefinite leave to remain yet, so I have no right to family life at the moment.
In the refusal letter, they didn't even mention that the ban was lifted.Let me also say to you, my husband is Albanian.He applied at the British Embassy in Tirana.This is why I am so reluctant to apply for his spouse visa, and think it might be best if we go and live somewhere else for a year, and then return.But, on the other hand, I have a permanent job,I will earn 30K if i do get ILR from Sept,and I don't know if I really want to start all over again, after 7 years in this country, and working very hard to come where I am today.This is a difficult decision for me, very difficult.I also don't wanna go back home.I am a South African citizen.We got married in South Africa.