This is my problem - I don't understand what this part of the UKvisas website is trying to tell me. Here is says:
Guidance - Husbands, wives and partners (INF 4)
Can I join my husband, wife, civil partner, fiancé, fiancée or proposed civil partner in the UK?
You can apply to join your husband, wife, civil partner, fiancé, fiancée or proposed civil partner in the UK as long as:
-they currently live and are settled in the UK, or
-they are coming to live permanently in the UK, and
-they are not under 18
All well and good... seems fine, that means we could come together right? I wouldn't have to come and settle first (Which I cannot do because of my son). But then there's this:
How do I qualify to join my husband, wife or civil partner in the UK?
You must show that:
-you are legally married to each other or are in a civil partnership recognized in the UK
-your husband, wife or civil partner is present and settled in the UK (see below) you both intend to live together permanently as husband and wife or as civil partners
-you have met each other before
-together you can support yourselves and any Dependants without any help from public funds
-you have suitable accommodation, which is owned or lived in only by you and your household, and where you and your Dependants can live without any help from public funds
-your husband, wife or civil partner is not under 18, and
-you are not under 18.
What does "present and settled" mean?
‘Settled’ means being allowed to live in the UK lawfully, with no time limit on your stay. "Present and settled" means that the person concerned is settled in the UK and, at the time we are considering your application under the Immigration Rules, is in the UK or is coming here with you, or to join you and plans to live with you in the UK if your application is successful.
I am having a lot of trouble understanding that last bit about present and settled. It seems to first imply I must be exactly what present and settled would logically mean - in the UK, set up and waiting for my husband to come over.
But I have that last bit in bold because it confuses me -
"is in the UK or is coming here with you".
That seems to contradict what I would think present and settled means. I would think that
THAT means that it would be ok if Mark applies for his husband visa in Canada, gets it, we pick up and leave Canada together, arrive at Heathrow together, he goes through his line up and I go through mine, he tells them that yes, I came here with him from Canada but I'm a British Citizen without a flat in London, and they'd say OK?
It seems unlikely as they have specified Present and settled.
Am I taking crazy pills here?
Perhaps there is another visa that my husband could apply for initially - such as the working holiday visa - and then whilst in the UK together he could apply for a spousal? Of course, it's sure not going to look good if my husband comes through the line up with my son and a working holiday visa, nor would I have a easy time of it if I took my son through the line up with me on the EU national side. I'll bet I would have to face questions about where the father was and if I had consent etc.
There has to be an answer to all this.
