Pregnant and want to get married a failed asylum seeker

[vivi]

Hi I really need advice.

I am completely utterly in love with my man, which I met almost a year ago even thought we recently got into a relationship...he is from nigeria. I am pregnant and really stressed about our situation.

I am so scared that he is going to be deported...I really dont want to go through this...we wanted to get married but I happen to be pregnant and he's off to make an application for asylum in ireland, he went via ship.

I am an EU citizen living in UK. To be honest with you I dont know exactly his status atm here in UK as he never likes to talk about it because he doesnt want me to get all stressed. He doesnt realise I am so stressed already, I am just petrified...all I know is that he was deported back to his country 10 years ago from uk and he left voluntarily, but then came back...I really dont understand any of these things...all I want is for us to have a normal life as a family. So we were planning to get married before the baby arrives...how do we get married in UK or Ireland? Do we both need a passport (well I have mine) I just dont know about him. If he is deported I am happy to go and be with him back to nigeria even thought it'll prove difficult as he is from an area with so much crime and civil fightings and he told me many of his friends been killed from this extremist group. So I dont think it will be such a great idea raising a child and live in a country with war, poverty and chaos. Doesnt he have any human rights to be protected by them in this country?

Can you advice me on which option I have to be with him? I dont want my child to grow up without a father next to him.

I thank you so much in advance

[Brigid from Ireland]

Very simple.

If you are an EU citizen you can move to Ireland and be with him there. Once your child is born he can apply for EU4FAM stamp in Ireland.

In fact he can probably apply for his stamp before the child is born as the partner of an EU migrant worker.

You would need to work or be a student in Ireland.

[Plum70]

So I dont think it will be such a great idea raising a child and live in a country with war, poverty and chaos.

I was raised for most of my growing years in many cities in Nigeria and don't recall being close to starvation or death.

Do not be tempted - irrespective of what your boyfriend said - to mar a whole country. Nigeria is not synonymous with famine, pandemonium and blood-thirsty slayers, though pockets of violence and unrest can be evidenced as you would in other parts of the world.

Go and visit (a couple of times/places) and then make an informed judgement.

Btw, I second what Brigid said.