Exceptional circumstances & unjustifiably harsh consequences

[marasinghes]

I posted this last night (twice in error). One was deleted and the other was combined with an earlier post on a different subject. So not sure what happened there. I’m reposting here so I can hopefully get some guidance.

My husband and I are considering preparing his application for spouse visa from outside the UK under the exceptional circumstances route. We have been in a relationship for three years. Married for two. We met in Sri Lanka when I was visiting friends. I have a son who is now six. He was three when I met my husband. He has no relationship with his biological father and considers my husband to be his father.
I have had serious mental health issues during all of my adult life - I’m now nearly 40. We have been back and forth from Sri Lanka over the past three years, trying to make a life there but have failed as ultimately being in Sri Lanka exacerbates my mental health issues and if I have an episode there is no suitable mental health support there and nothing in place there to treat my condition.
I have on two occasions returned to the UK to work so that I can sponsor my husband but this quickly falls apart as I am unable to manage the pressure of full time work plus lone parenting, in the context of my mental health issues.
So now I am not working again due to deterioration in my mental health and in the UK with my son. My son misses my husband terribly. We are not able to move back to Sri Lanka again as it would be hugely destabilising for my son. We want to make this application for the spouse visa on the basis of my my husbands parental relationship with my son and that moving to Sri Lanka and/or on the basis that I would not be able to access adequate mental health treatment in Sri Lanka. Not sure which or both? And that of course if we were to return to Sri Lanka those would be unjustifiably harsh circumstances for our family.
My husband speaks perfect English and has a pretty good job in Sri Lanka.
In an ideal world I would work a few hours per week doing a job I can manage, my husband would come here and work full time and support me and my son. Is it pie in the sky to think that this visa will ever be granted?

I am exhausted after two years of back and forth.

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